2018-05-20 Long Lost Sunday Status Update

Let’s see.. its been a few weeks since I did a proper Sunday Status. It’s kind of a broken record thing anyway but here goes…

Exercise: Average 17k steps for the week. I’m hovering right around 14.5 k for the past month and 15k for the past 3 months and 16k so far this year. The count of Jazzercise classes continues to be low.. Only 2 this past week.

Food: Nothing ever changes. I’m still unhappy with things right now but apparently not unhappy enough to stick to any mods in the diet. The story is always the same. Ugh. I’m super pumped every day to make great choices and by the end of the day I’m on a slippery slide down a slope crashing into a pile of junk food at the bottom. My weight has also been a stupid number messing with my head even though my weight is fine, but the truer measure is how I feel when I look in the mirror. Right now I’m an unhappy camper. Clothes that don’t fit the same as they did last year and there’s me asking myself “does my butt look big”. It’s a trick question with no good answer. Damn. It’s time for setting concrete goals until I’m satisfied. As of today I’m about 7 lbs over my target 🎯 and so I’d like to loose 1 pound a week to get to that goal by July. Maybe I’ll try that Keto thing for a week and see how that goes. I dunno.

Sleep: Average of 7 hours and 5 minutes a night in the last week. Better than the previous weeks but I’d really like to hit 7.5 hours. See.. broken record.

Work: Still employed and trying to get those hours in so I can pay for that castle I live in and all my shiny red cars and trips to tropical destinations. 😜

School: Taking a break yo! No more to do until July.

And last but never least.. Relationship Status: Dating and happy and hopeful for the future. This week we both met each other’s kids and all that went perfectly. It’s a wonderful feeling being so doted over and treated like the most important thing in someone’s like. He’s so thoughtful and caring and everything a girl could ask for. At this point we are making plans for the Summer and going on our first vacation together. He wants to travel just as much as I do so that’s the bomb. I could go on and on, but I gotta cut and run.

Today I’m trying to get a good workout in because it’s “release” weekend at work so I’m on the hook for testing and documentation for that. Like I said.. gotta get those hours in when I can to pay for my life of luxury!

Happy Sushi Sunday,

~Miss SugarCookie

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2018-05-19 Eleven Week Meetup

It’s a rainy Saturday afternoon. I’m at the gym trying to work of a big lunch. JS an I were talking last night about the foods we used to eat when we were young and in HS and college and it reminded me of my very favorite thing ever (or was a hundred years ago).

Blue box macaroni and cheese paired with applesauce. It had to be Kraft and from the box, none of that easy Mac stuff they sell now. Talking about it gave me such a craving. When I was at the grocery earlier getting stuff to cook dinner I picked up a box and some sugar free organic applesauce. I made that for lunch today for C and I and it was so good. I overate a little and now I just feel full. Hopefully 10k steps on this machine will make me feel better.

Big deal for me later.. not only am I cooking dinner for us (first time for that), but he’s also meeting my kids. I mean, it feels like a big deal even though it’s really not. He’s a cool cat and my kids won’t care much. Hopefully we’ll have a nice dinner and good conversation and then he and I are headed across the Missouri to go to an art exhibit at my sisters building (she lives in an artist complex that’s an old building downtown turned into apartments). I’m sure it will all be fine but I’m kinda nervous anyway hoping it goes well.

The cooking part is kind of funny actually because he’s cooked for me no less than like two dozen times (or more) now. Just about every time I go to his place we have a meal and he’s never let me help. Well one morning I was on bacon duty. 😜

I’m totally not used to that. He pours me a glass of wine and I just sit there and watch him while he cooks, and we talk. This time I’m cooking and one must remember I’m used to cooking for my kids and I and we don’t ever eat anything fancy. Mostly because they are so picky and don’t like flavor. I’ve always been good at my job, but with all the domestic stuff, I’m very so-so.

After cooking for Simon a couple of times he sort of always gave me a look when the subject came up. “Oh honey, not everyone can be good at everything”. Gawd, but that was Simon.. always making me feel inadequate. “Can you crack an egg?” What a patronizing thing to say. JS would never do that and, of that, I am certain.

Anyway, so that’s going down in a couple of hours. It will be fine I’m sure. The trick will be to cook a meal everyone will like and nobody will turn their nose up. I want the kids to leave a good impression and People eye rolling and refusing to eat will just not do. I just really want the kids to like him and for him to like the kids. Today is the 11 week anniversary of the day we met. Wowza! Time flies. That’s a good amount of time to wait to introduce the kids right? I hope so.

I’d better get back to cleaning up the house now that my lunch has settled.

Peace Out, ✌️

~Miss SugarCookie

2018-04-07 Five Weeks

Five weeks ago today, I was waking up and laying in bed and going through my normal single-girl routine…

Pick up the phone.. check for text.. check email.. look for app notification badges, Facebook, Twitter, WordPress.. open Bumble and make a decision about swiping right or left on the current person whom I presumably was stuck on for some reason or I probably would have swiped already. Then I would keep swiping until I got stuck again or decided I had better things to do with my Saturday morning.

Five weeks ago is when I first laid eyes on pics of JS and swiped right. I honestly don’t remember if it was a match right away or if it came shortly after that. In either case, by the time I was on my elliptical machine at the gym, that same morning, we were already texting. That text conversation ended with a plan for having a phone conversation later in the afternoon.

It was a warm day for early March. Sunny and Temps in the 50s but with some wicked wind. When 2PM rolled around, I grabbed my phone and headphones and headed out my front door for a walk and a chat. It was a great idea, but the wind was problematic. He was outside too and we both struggled with the wind noise.

I did a move around my block and settled back on my front porch which is pretty shielded from the wind. He ended up at a spot on a patio in his back yard. It was a great conversation. Right away I really dig the fact he was full of questions and the conversation was so easy. Even with him bringing up most topics, he shared equal info about himself.

It was mostly the main things.. where you are from, what you do for a living, what’s the family status (kids, ages, etc). We probably talked for an hour and a half and the end of that conversation, if I’m remembering correctly, ended in a plan to meet soon.

Soon turned out to be that evening!! “Life is too short” he said, and I agreed. So that night we met at a wine bar and had more great conversation over a few glasses if wine (him white, me Red). Again, it was super easy conversation and it made it even easier because he’s nice to look at. 😉

Believe me, I’ve shown up for a first Meetup and been surprised that the person I was meeting didn’t look anything like their picture. I think JS is even better looking in person so it was super happy about that.

I think I nursed one glass of wine for about an hour and a half and he was sensitive to the fact that my kids were home alone so we called it a night. I assured him they were capable of taking care of themselves but he insisted and I let that be the final.

He walked me out and toward my car and as we were saying goodbye I was wondering if he was going to try and kiss me goodbye. He didn’t, so I requested one. A girl’s got to know, you know?! It was nice. 😊

He then walked me closer to my car and when he saw I drive a Prius, he said that he used to drive one. That sticks out in my mind for some reason.

That was five weeks ago.. the day I met JS and our first date. Here we are five weeks later and couldn’t be happier.

I realize now that it’s more than checking boxes, as it should be. Yes.. all the boxes are checked ✅ and there’s no red flags 🇹🇳, but it’s so much more, and tough to articulate or write about. Perhaps because I’m not used to writing about this situation. I historically just haven’t, so I’m not as practiced at this than I am at what to say when my heart is broken.

I’ve written him a few times directly, with my thoughts and feelings, and I know based on our conversations he’s feeling the same way. It seems sort of impossible or not real, but I’ve had a few weeks to get used to it and let me tell you, it’s easy to get used to.

One of the best parts has been the easy communication that has been continuous. He’s responsive and not only was interested in my writing but read my poetry blog (not this one), and without any prompting, he read into my poem with the statements about cut flowers AND initiated a conversation about that specifically!! Like he was reading my mind. Wow!!

So far, we’ve been ‘out’ about half a dozen times and the rest has been meeting at his house and he’s cooked for me and we’ve watched a movie and played pool and just sat and talked. He’s also cooked me breakfast (that was pretty awesome too)! 😉

After about two weeks, I was confident I was not going to be ghosted again and now, I’m starting to allow myself to daydream about the future. Five weeks ago I never would have guessed this is where I would be in April. Never. Amazing!

So now I’m cautiously super optimistic and just trying to enjoy each conversation and date. I’m dating!! My relationship status is no longer single!!! Huzzah!!!! 🌈☀️🎉💕😊

Now THIS is the Life! (Bout time),

~Miss SugarCookie

2018-03-19 Delayed Sunday Status – The “Big News” Edition

What day is it again? I’ve been traveling on a new track and apparently left my sense of time a few stops back.

Oh yeah.. Monday. It’s been a few days since I’ve done anything resembling my normal routine, and my balance was definitely off this past weekend. I’m going to try and rediscover my center of gravity today and since I completely breezed by Sunday, I’m going to start by checking-in in my stats from last week.

Steps and Exercise.. 16K average per day. Not quite on par with where it has been (20k), but still above goal which is 15K per day. I had a few 25K days and that helped balance out the two days I fell way short of the 15. One contributing factor of the decline was the fact I only did 2 Jazzercise classes all week. There are reasons for that, of course, but I’ll get to that.

Food was pretty variable too. I didn’t do a stellar job of rejecting all the birthday goodies, but in hind site I did ok. If there is one thing I can see in the horizon for this is yet another attempt to minimize gluten. I’ve had a reoccurrence of a past irritation which was alienated before by eliminating gluten for over 6 months. Not solid on my level of commitment there, but it would be easier than ever given the, now, wide spread social and economic support of this lifestyle choice.

Sleep.. 7 hours and 9 minutes average per night and I’ll take it! This is arguably my most important stat and the most neglected area. If there’s something that always sufferes from my poor choices, this is it. I’m going to try very hard this week to get to bed at a good hour.

Work is really taking off now I think and I hit my goal for hours last week with more left undone. I don’t see there being any trend back the other way either. I now have my fingeres in more pies and I can feel my team members trusting me more. And at long last, my checking account is safely back in the black. Still not good enough to start looking at my wish list, but getting there.

My schoolwork has been severely neglected for a couple weeks now and I’m detecting a very bad trend. The panic monster is snoring hard and I’m content just to dance around and ignore it. That’s not good. I need to get back to my reading and writing. I need to set aside dedicated time and make this a priority. It’s going to get even tougher I think given my other status change. Which once again brings me to everyone’s favorite train wreck topic. This time, however, I feel like I’m riding the Eurostar.

At the present moment I’m thoroughly enjoying the smooth, elegant ride. The easy, effortless way I’m being propelled forward on this track makes the speed seem virtually unnoticeable. I’ve only known Bachelor #15 for two weeks, but It feels like much longer and I’m quite pleased with how things are going. This definitely deserves more words, and I have more, but out of time now. I’ll just end by officially stating that my relationship status is now happily being changed to “dating”!!! ☮️💕😊

If this train wrecks, I probably won’t survive because I’ll likely drown somewhere between London and Paris.

Time to Monday,

~Miss SugarCookie

2018-03-15 Ohhh the Ides

One doesn’t have to look too far to find why this day in history has been marked with a black cloud .. for Ceasar and for my Family. Every year we sort of hold our breath waiting for March to pass. I don’t want to repeat myself and I wrote a little about it last year. If you are interested, last years post is Here.

I’m hoping to balance all that out (as much as one could) with my 4th date with Bachelor #15. He’s going to cook me dinner at his house and then we are going to watch that movie we planned to watch on our second date but ran out of time. I’m really looking forward to it.

I think having a 4th date breaks some sort of record. I’m cautiously hopeful about this guy. He seems awesome and I keep daydreaming about the future. Something in the back of my head can’t help but be skeptical though. Is this the date where he decides he’s not that into me and tomorrow “poof” he’s gone?

I wasn’t like this a year ago so it’s definitely the dating scene that’s caused this paranoia. To be fair, a year ago I was still trying really hard to get over my ex and not think about him every damn day. I think it was June that I downloaded the Bumble dating app and started swiping.

I’ve decided that if this new guy decides to exit stage left, that’s it for Bumble. I’ve sealed that deal by deleting the app. I don’t really have a plan B other than to just take a break from that madness for a while. Dating should be fun, and it hasn’t been. That being stated, every interaction with Bachelor #15 has been really great so far.. fun, perfect dates, great conversation, balanced. He’s checking all the boxes and making me smile.. that’s how it’s supposed to be!! 😊

Until our dinner date tonight at his house, I have all day in an empty, quiet house to get some work done. It’s been a while and I’m very much looking forward to the break. I’m a little behind this week on things for work (all self imposed deadlines), but in the next few days I’ll be able to dig in and concentrate.

In any case, I’m going to minimize my chances of running into any soothsayers today by staying close to home. I don’t need anyone telling me to “Beware the Ides”. And if I get murdered tonight like Ceasar did, then wont that be just the grandest irony ever! 😜

Here’s to Shakespeare,

~Miss SugarCookie

2018-03-09 French Fry Day

This morning I woke with a headache which was half blutini and half cycle day one trying really hard to make an appearance (presumably). I only had two drinks at dinner last night so it can’t just be all that.

Despite my spidey-sense being off when it comes to meeting new people lately, I decided once again to trust it and let bachelor #15 pick me up at my house for dinner out and then a movie at his place.

My house wasn’t really company-worthy but I gave him the grand tour anyway. My daughter is mortified that I showed her room in its current state and said “never do that again”. Ha! Ive decided that it’s just better just to be real and show people how we really live anyway.

“Here’s my daughter’s room, littered with clean and dirty clothes and my dining room being prepped for painting and every other room severely in need of dusting and vacuuming”. It paints a clear picture that I like to live in very uncluttered spaces for the most part, but am not the most diligent housekeeper and also that I let my kids be the ruler of their own rooms.

After that we went for sushi which is always a good choice. There’s lots to talk about when you first meet someone and the conversation was pretty effortless. When dinner was over it was time to go to watch the movie at his place. Or at least that was the plan.

By the time we got through the tour of his house, which was pretty sizable, and talked about lots of things along the way, it was getting too late to start a show so he drove me back home. I explained that I really wanted to see the movie but also really wanted to enjoy it and not be too tired and it was already past 10.

When we parted ways, I told him to text me when he got home but I was already half asleep when that came in. Skipping the movie was a good call.

This brings me right back to 6 am waking up after sleeping 6.5 hours with a slight headache. The kids stayed at their dads last night but were texting me before 7am wanting to come home. I took my daily doses of curcumin and caffeine and drive to pick them up.

Today I need to put a heavy focus on work and get some hours in. I should probably start that soon actually.

It’s French Friday.. Time to Kechup,

~Miss SugarCookie

2018-03-08 Wandering Thursday Thoughts

Today is going to be action packed.. but first.. gym time.

I took C to school early this AM for a study session to prep for a social studies test. How terrible! I always hated social studies. History, government, anything that was anything about something so 100 years or more ago. Yuk!!

I still feel this way for the most part but here’s something I’m finding quite intriguing. There’s quite a bit of history in my texts for school right now and all of it contributes to different theories about the different eras of literature and poetry and the style of those times. There’s influence from social and economic factors stemming from many events in time and human development. I’m finding all that super interesting. I never thought I would care about what happened during the Renaissance or the outcomes of different conflicts and the long term impacts, but here I am digging in and wanting more. Color me surprised.

Turning away from history and focusing back on today.. There’s a promise of action packed adventure. I’m not going to try and guess if Z will still be sleeping when we get home, but if so it will give me a little time to check in on Work stuff and get ready for the day.

We’re hitting the DMV, then food out somewhere and then shopping this afternoon. She’s really into anime right now and other cult following type shows so we’re hitting Stella’s and Hot topic. She has gift certificates for both. Not sure how long all that will take. Last year we went to a movie but talking about it last night, there’s nothing out right now she wants to see. Me either I guess.

I’ve wanted to see a few of the academy award winning shows from this year but just haven’t had an occasion to and was also holding out to see who the winners were. Now I really want to see The Shape of Water and magically, tonight that’s going to happen.

It’s an official second date. Of all the first dates I’ve gone on, I’ve only ever had three second dates, four if you count Simon who I never really dated. 😂

First was Country, who ghosted me after our second Meetup. Next was Alabama who literally moved a week after we met. The latest was 🤔 “Mr. Media”, who I actually went on three dates with before I was ghosted. It’s a good thing I’m not seriously a crazy person or I would be going ghost hunting to give these douchebags a piece of my mind.

In truth, I did date Simon. We only went “out” on a date like four times and all were initiated and paid for by yours truly. I took him out for sushi at Hiro. I took him to grey plume for his birthday, I took him to the Matchbox 20 concert. The last one was a dinner out some unmemorable place in Dundee for which he had a gift card from referring ME to a financial advisor friend of his.

Of all the things I’m grateful for over those five months, which there were several positive things, meeting that other person is high on the list. The rest of the times we hung out it was either me driving to his house or our kids having a play date. I’m big at defining things and based on my definition, those aren’t really dates.

Tonight is definitely a date. Dinner and a movie.. it’s the classic definition of a date. I have a feeling he’s even going to pay for it. How novel!! We’ve talked on the phone several times now and have had fairly regular text conversation. So far, there’s nothing that would lead me to believe he’s the ghosting type, but I’ve been fooled before.

Like I’ve questioned before.. how hard is it to say “I’m not that into you”. I’m a big girl.. I can take it. Besides, I know a good connection is rare and I have no problem recognizing all the reasons someone might not want to go out again. I’ve been honest and direct after first dates and I guess I’d like to get that in return.

In any case, I’m going to slow my roll on this one and just enjoy the Sushi and a movie that I’ve really wanted to see.

Right now though.. time to go wake up my darling daughter.

Peace Out,

~Miss SugarCookie